Sunday, December 31, 2017
Mareez Reyes once said, ~One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether its guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go.~ If you think about it, when it comes to the turning over of a new year once again it's in a sense like a regeneration of sorts and each one of us is The Doctor. Essentially, every year we're given the opportunity to regenerate into a whole new person, so to speak, to the point where sticking to a resolution for the new year is considered to be a battle within itself we either face head on or struggle with entirely so much so you run away. For it can certainly be a tough and furstrating situation indeed at the very start knowing you'll be tested mentally, emotionally, physically, and not to mention spiritually as well. As I said before, every year we're given the opportunity to regenerate into a while new person, so to speak, to the point where sticking to a resolution is considered to be a battle within itself we either face head on or struggle entirely so much so you run away. True, it can be quite difficult to stay focused in wanting to achieve set goals for yourself knowing there are countless Dalek-like distractions that could in all intense and purposes exterminate one's own journey into trying to become a far better person. Of course, it's a continuous journey year after year in which a person reflects back sometimes not by choice on the many faces of the past you can either fondly smile back on or shed tears of sadness. What is primarily comes down to is having the determination to see it through or run away because of how so overwhelming it is. Without a doubt, it's during one year to year journey in their own etaphorical TARDIS in which it's much bigger on the inside regarding the deep vastness of your thoughts, feeling, and/or emotions. Thinking about it further deep emotions such as anger, confusion, betrayal, bitterness, utter heartbreak, etc. are remnants of a past self that may still remain underneath the surface and haven't really let have let go as certain mental, emotional, and physical memories are a unwanted haunting reminder that continue to resonate like a nightmare you so desperately want to wake up from. Unfortunately, its a sad state of affairs when the pain is so humanly unbearable you want to shout out with angered tears for everybody to hear in somewhat similar fashion of the 11 Doctor in a memorable scene of the episode Rings Akhaten. Let me ask this question as it pertains to the bed buds/gal pals or should I say companions you've in a sense traveled across the universe with over the years? Are they still companions of yours or did you end up making the difficult decision to part way with him/her/them? Here another question. do you still remember their names and faces? You see, life and truly worthwhile friends are a rarity to hold on to whereby no matter how long you haven't seen/talked/interacted with each other falling into the same old fun filled, mischievous routine is easy. However, what's never really easy is making the decision to part ways with friends for the betterment of your own mental and emotional sanity like encountering a Weeping Angel and with an eventual blink of an eye they're gone for from your life never to heard or seen from again. In retrospect, 2018 provides everybody the chance to push the quintessential reset button and experience a whole new set of unknown adventures lying in wait for each one us. Granted, whether it involves the same companions you've been traveling with for years or much different ones it will be considerably interesting to say the least. Fortunately, for some people they have a fantastic outlook to the new year with a 9th Doctor like vigor while others feel it's not getting here fast enough so much so you would gladly have your mind wiped like Donna by the 10th doctor in the episode Journey's End. Ultimately, this year has been a journey of more highs than lows and vice versa as its just a matter of perspective involving our own personal journey of life. In the end, I think each of us can unanimously agree and say to 2017 it's been a pleasure but now I let you go
Monday, December 18, 2017
Someone once said, ~I let it happen again. You've gotten the best of me all tangled up. You have known which strings to pull, getting depth in this beaten heart. I trust you won't walk out again, as we both had the custom. This feeling is not something that is wanted. It's just needed from now on. Love was a monster I had no intentions of facing, but all it did was chase. I have been worn down to the end of my rope, I know you'll catch me before I fall.~ If you think about it, it can oftentimes feel as if love/true love is considered to be a master marionettist with the ability to pull the strings of the metaphorical marionette/puppet that is the human heart. For it can truly be a frustrating situation indeed in trying to deal with the mental, emotional, and not to mention the physical strings that can certainly get tangled up when facing the possibility of a worthwhile relationship after experiencing utter heartbreak. As I said before, it can oftentimes feel as if love/true love is considered to be a master marionettist pulling the wire/strings of the metaphorical marionette/puppet that is the human heart. Essentially, what I mean is a person can inevitably go through similar motions when the strings associating matters of the heart become in all intense and purposes attached once again to the point where it gradually takes hold and twists you up inside, in a manner of speaking. I think it's safe to say we've all experienced this or are experiencing this and it's an absolutely scary feeling. True, there is an initial mindset in which you think you'll have the strength to resist being moved by the wires/strings representing one's own thoughts, feelings and/or emotions. However, it really depends on how strong those aforementioned strings are that determine if you have complete control or end up losing that control completely. Without a doubt, when you do get tangled up in the wires/strings of one's own thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions it can most definitely be quite difficult to untangle the mental, as well as emotional mess you find yourself in. Of course, that's where a gradual internal panic sets in to where the initial instinct is to immediately struggle merely out of sheer desperation to get free causing one to be even more tangled up than you were ever before. Unfortunately, it has a detrimental effect in how you think, act, feel, and/or say as it internally flips you upside down in a such a negative way whereby making it harder to untangle yourself thus focusing on anything remotely positive. What it primarily comes down to is to avoid getting tangled up in the same relationship mistakes in the past or be left in a sense mentally, as well as emotionally dangling from the same strings of doubt, frustration, anger, fear, confusion, bitterness, etc. Let me ask this question to those who are living the single life, does it ever feel like you're simply a marionette/puppet dangling on a wire/string when it pertains to dating sites/apps? You see, the thought of placing your heart in the hands of so called master relationship marionettists who tout their ability in being able to expertly move you in the right direction towards true happiness sounds easy. Yet, even though it may sound easy having the marionette that is your heart being dangled out there "dancing" for a potential future best friend there lies within the difficulty of the unknown in attracting and then keeping someone's attention in an age where it's simply now a quick swipe to the left or right. Hey, as much as certain number people place their heart in the hands of these marionettists you don't ever want to ever have the feeling it's going to be left hanging there being passed by not being truly seen. In retrospect, nobody ever wants to put their heart out there hanging like a marionette/puppet and have it be utterly ignored or even manipulated by a guy/girl with their own sordid ulterior motives. Sadly, for most people past bad relationship experiences and heartbreak have taught them the master marionettist that is love is an incredibly cruel monster who has the power to expose your beaten down heart so much so you're left hanging absolutely vulnerable. Ultimately, it's a hard to face a harsh and unwanted reality in which you can either accept the fate of forever being a marionette/puppet to it or making the decision to cut the tight bonds of those strings/wires allowing you to move freely in every sense of the word. In the end, if the latter is chosen then and not let the pursuit of a relationship be your entire reason for living then my friend you'll have the confidence in saying that when it comes to your own heart there are no strings on me.
Thursday, November 09, 2017
Ramor Ryan once said, ~If solidarity is unity of purpose or togetherness, how to span this great divide of inequality, privilege, universal rights, political agency, and even our seeing things completely different? In constructing this bridge of international solidarity across we even begin?~ If you think about it, that's the million dollar question right there and being able to bring people together with words and/or action instead of creating a divide is considered to be far more imperative as it pertains to the state of a seemingly broken culture system sorely needing to be fixed, so to speak. For it's not a complicated situation indeed to understand as it merely takes common sense to not say and/or do anything one would end up regretting whereby facing the consequences because of their utter recklessness in not thinking before they act/speak. Without a doubt, it seems as if there has been as of late a tremendous amount of negativity in regards to harsh words being spoken, especially when it involves senseless acts of tragedy. A tragedy that happened on the night of Oct 1, 2017 in Las Vegas. Its those words that are intended to cut a much deeper divide rather than heal an already extremely sensitive open wound that was and still is fresh in the hearts, as well as minds of the American people. You see, a cold and heartless remark from CBS executive Haley Geftman-Gold concerning the unfortunate victims of the Vegas shooting referred to the country music fans attending a Jason Aldean as "Republican gun toters" and addition to that she wasn't sympathetic at all towards them. Fortunately, that controversial statement caused absolute outrage so much so she ending up getting fired from her job and rightfully so. As I said before, words harshly spoke in a negative way doesn't help in bridging the divide as it causes more of increasing the distance to where it hinders the process of getting to the other side. For the most part, Democrats and Republics will never really see eye to eye on certain hot button topics; but at the end of the day their human beings. Yet, it's a sad state of affairs when a human being such as Union County Democrat James Devine called for a "hunt" on Republicans and said he had little sympathy for Republican House Majority Whip Steve Salise after getting shot by James Hodgkinson during a baseball practice in Alexandria, Virginia along with 4 others. True, even though words can be spoken out of anger the decision to not express concern on the health and well being one's fellow man whom you disagree with from time to time show incredible lack of human decency. Let me ask you this question as it concerns President Trump, no matter what you think of him personally and his policies is there a way of bridging the gap in order to bring everybody together and not constantly be at war, in a manner of speaking? In other words, focusing on the more important issues facing the United States and abroad knowing how much hatred Trump gets from every direction. Thinking about it further, the news media as a whole has to be responsible entity in not being out rightly bias and out for their own agenda in reporting what may or may not be solid piece of potential damning information. Granted, I'm not a Trump supported by any stretch of the imagination, but when the media and certain a number of Senator's sole focus is get Trump out of office and brushing off other news that needs to light to be shed on there's something totally wrong in my honest opinion. In retrospect, the words "lead by example" holds a incredibly deeper meaning now more than ever. Oftentimes, the childish antics and demeanor of those up in Washington D.C. are far too embarrassing to even contemplate. Sadly, there aren't any signs of the fighting between both sides to stop any time soon and so it's up to American people to step up to be the true leaders we know we can be. Hey, we as citizens of the United States may have differences of opinions but when the chips our down we help our fellow man during times of great sadness and tragedy. Ultimately, it's what makes America great in coming together in being able to heal in times of immense crisis. In the end, let's all lead by example and take the initiative to be a more united not divided country because our elected official aren't doing a very good job at it.
Monday, September 25, 2017
Benjamin Franklin once said, ~Without freedom of thought, there can be no such thing as wisdom; and no such thing as public liberty, without freedom of speech.~ The first Amendment. Without a doubt, the right to free speech is considered 1 of the 5 basic freedoms of rights guaranteed to we the people in order to express it in a verbal and/or nonverbal way. Essentially, the right to freely expressing a powerful and not to mention controversial message concerning the decision to kneel during the playing of the national anthem involving the man who initially started it last year Colin Kaepernick. For it truly has been a highly heated and much debated discussion indeed in which it has certainly garnered tremendous amount of attention to say least to the point where an individual's patriotism is being called into question. Let me ask you this question pertaining to the decision by a number of NFL players and most recently a MLB player in not standing when the national anthem is played, has your opinion been positive, negative, or somewhere in between? True, there has been mostly a negative backlash deeming the rebellious act of protesting while down on one knee can be from a certain point of view labeled unpatriotic. Why? In a number of individual's eyes it spits in the face, in a manner of speaking, of all that is good and what has been freely given provided by those who swore a patriotic oath to protect those freedoms so much so their own lives were give up in doing so. Thinking about it further, those aforementioned men and women of the armed forces who are far more deserving of respect knowing full well what they have been/are enduring on a professional and personal level. As I said before, there has been mostly a negative backlash deeming the rebellious act of protesting while down on one knee can be from a certain point of view labeled unpatriotic. However, on the flipside, the reason for kneeling is bringing to light social injustices in regards to racism and police brutality among the African American community that have constantly being going on for years. Granted, the topic has been brought up countless times in the past and even though they've become the proverbial hot button topic they've gradually faded or should I say set aside for much more important matters whatever it may be at the time. Of course, one could argue the fact that it's a seemingly repetitive cycle that has yet to be broken and even though its right in front of our eyes we as a nation have not fully open our eyes in properly handling such a touchy subject matter. For the question can be asked, if you could come up with a compromise or some sort of solution of sorts to deal with what some have viewed as being disrespectful to the American Flag what would it be? I think its safe to say in order for a compromise or solution of sorts to happen their must be open dialogue to where the 2 or 3 sides are speaking with and actually listening to each other instead angrily of at/over each other. Thinking about it further, one possible proposal is having athletes, singers, etc. pay up a substantial portion of their salary to a charity of their choosing every time they make the decision to kneel so that way they're in a way giving to a cause while their standing up for theirs, so to speak. Unfortunately, the possible proposal may not solve anything and at the same time it's a potential starting off point for a meeting of the minds in a more respectful way. In retrospect, I will always stand when the national anthem plays because I am the son of a retired military veteran who severed in the United Stated Navy and in turn his country proud for many years. Personally speaking, it's an honor and privilege to stand knowing my father proudly served/honored a flag that provided with him so much despite having so little coming from the Philippines. Oftentimes, we forget this great country is based on the ideals of being able to have the freedom to say/do/choose knowing that in certain countries they don't have that afforded right. Sadly, those rights in certain countries are taken away and punishable by death when it comes to their own laws. In the end, what it primarily comes down to is choice and if you choose to make a statement you're wholeheartedly standing up for then by all means take a knee; but don't do it because it's simply a popular trend you want to take part in.
Tuesday, September 12, 2017
Game of Thrones character Robb Stark once said, ~Love's now always wise, I've learned. It can lead us to great folly, but we follow our hearts...wherever they take us.~ If you think about it, the HBO hit series Game of Thrones and matters of the heart are synonymous with each other in a such a way there can be a sense of immense victory, as well as tragedy along with everything in between within the fictitious world of fire and ice. For it's a seemingly epic world where intense battles are fought in regards to utter heartbreak, confusion, betrayal, death, trust, faith, honor, and most definitely name. Oftentimes, you fight with everything you have to win and other times it's an all out losing battle altogether where the odds are so overwhelming you have no chance whatsoever like the Battle Of The Bastards just outside the gates of Winterfell. True, it's a difficult decision indeed to not always know whether or not the fight will be worth it unless you're actually in the battle itself. Thinking about it further, when you're living the single life you try to metaphorically conquer/restore those previously mentioned in hope of one day uniting/establishing all 7 Kingdoms in your own heart with one's unknown King/Queen ruling by your side, so to speak. As I said before, when you're living the single life you try to conquer/restore those previously mentioned above in hope of one day uniting/establishing all 7 Kingdoms in your own heart with one's unknown King/Queen ruling by your side, so to speak. Granted, even though its considered a work of mere fiction it can become reality with the right guy/girl in question. Yet, there are times while fighting the intense battles that are quite certainly deeply personal in a mental, emotional, and not to mention physical way you can come to a point where you end up telling yourself, others close to/around you, or being told you know nothing like Ygritte tells Jon Snow from seasons 2-4. In any case, it's those metaphorical relationship scars that you receive in the field of battle otherwise known as the dating scene hopefully help you gain significant perspective and clarity so much so you'll be more rather than less in the know. Hey, it's a constant learning experience as you put yourself out there knowing there will be times where you'll be faced with cold, hard truths and hopefully you don't end up meeting your "demise" by an arrow straight through the heart from behind like Ygritte in the battle of Castle Black. Without a doubt, there are times when suffering and dealing with utter heartbreak it can feel as if you've been stabbed several times with a knife in the heart as did Jon Snow by 4 members of the Night Watch at Castle Black. Essentially, you've in a sense died because of the treacherous betrayal of being cheated on whereby leaving you humiliated and feeling absolutely exposed like Cersci Lannister walking the street of King's Landing by order of the High Sparrow. Essentially, the feeling of being "naked" and fully exposed leaves you completely vulnerable as you metaphorically walk the street of your own heart. While doing so the quintessential crowd of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions are angrily yelling as your conscience rings a bell repeating the word "shame" right behind you, in a manner of speaking, whereby making it a truly brutal/tortuous experience for yourself to say the least. What it primarily comes down to is being able to come back from death with help from your own red witch Melisandre representing your best buds/gal pals by your side who'll always be there to help/encourage you to move past the humiliation then forward to grow stronger in every sense of the word. Let me ask you this question to you single ladies, if you could mix together character traits of the guys of GoT and create your future best friend what would they be? If I'd fair to guess it'd be the responsible leadership of Ned Stark, insightful wisdom of Tyrion Lannister, informative nature of Varys, and pure innocence of Jon Snow's honesty in wanting to do the right thing. Jamie Lannister's sense of honor and not to mention handsome features along with the sarcastically dark, humorous bad boy mentality of Bronn make for some potentially attractive qualities. The skilled hands of Gendry, Grey Worm's strong sense of duty, and the unwavering determination of Podrick Payne make a admirable combo. In addition, the passionate Wildling Warrior like spirit of Tormund Giantsbane, no nonsense, straight forward bluntness of The Hound, and the untamed, charismatic fierceness of Khal Drago gives off a quirky albeit confident strength. Of course, the keen foresight of Bran intertwined with the protective nature of Hodor along with the mixture of Samwell Tarly's sensitivity and the loyalty of Davos Seaworth sprinkled in with the loving devotion of Jorah Mormont make for one guy who is seemingly perfect. However, the question is does he exist? In retrospect, the proverbial throne of love/true is quite certainly what those living the single life such as myself want to find ourselves sitting on, especially with someone truly special by our side. Yet, be careful and avoid encountering any Littlefinger/King Joffrey/Ramsay Bolton type individuals who have their own scheming, entitled, and/or morbidly twisted ulterior motives with incredibly bad intentions in mind. Truth be told, it would be far better to simply handle bad past relationships by commanding Drogon to engulf those aforementioned individual types in fire wouldn't you say? Unfortunately, it's not always the case as a number of people have sadly turned into no one exuding a cold, emotionless White Walker on the inside after struggling to fight beyond the wall for their efforts in experiencing their dreams of a strong, worthwhile relationship. Hey, you just have to attain that inner Sansa like graceful strength with a happily flirtatious sprinkle of Margaery Tyrell along with an added pinch of Oleanna Tyrell sassiness swirling in some kickass Arya and a gallantly stoic Brienne medium to balance it all out. Ultimately, for those seeking a Theon like redemption regarding true happiness you'll have it as it just a matter of being patient. In the end, never let yourself have an impenetrable iron heart mindset because someday you'll find yourself standing in front of/encountering someone who may very well be your prince/princess that was promised.
Friday, August 25, 2017
Arthur Schopenhauer once said, ~The first 40 years of life gives us the text. The next 30 supply the commentary.~ Without a doubt, turning 40 is considered an absolute milestone that it not only has its perks, but at the same time there are countless jokes associated with it as well. In any case, when it comes to reaching the quintessential 40th year of age plateau you're provided with detailed, as well as firsthand accounts of an individual's personal experiences. For its a truly interesting situation indeed finally reaching a point of adulthood that quite literally sneaks up on you. Yet, like our predecessors before us who have reached then surpassed the 4 decade mark were we've hopefully gained insightful wisdom pertaining to life experiences to where we're able to express what has been mentally noted down over the years. As I said before, when it comes to reaching the quintessential 40th year of age plateau you're provided with detailed, as well as firsthand accounts of an individual's personal experiences. When I was your age. Essentially, those 5 words are in all intense and purposes the springboard of nostalgic reminiscing to our peers and not to mention the younger generation who are either willing or unwilling to listen in order to learn from our life lessons thus far. In other words, helpful advice in not repeating the same mistakes in hopes of a forging a positively present path toward the flourishing future. Thinking about it further, its those life lesions we've mentally noted down over the years to where there's a Morgan Freeman stylized commentary happening like with his character Red in the movie The Shawshank Redemption. If you think about it, being able to reach a seemingly pivotal age that is the number 40 having the voice of Morgan Freeman automatically kick in would certainly be an added bonus in growing older and wiser. True, life would become considerably be more entertaining if you suddenly heard Morgan Freeman in your head commentating from the moment you woke up in the morning till you close your eyes to go to sleep. I think it would be safe to say having his voice in your head giving opinions and observational views is by far more soothing instead of your own inner voice. It's an inner voice who can be very irritating, annoying, and will never shut up no matter how hard you try so much so it drives you completely insane. Hey, at least with having Freeman being the voice in your head the daily commentary will sound significantly more epic don't you think? Let me ask you this question to those who are 40 or reaching particular stage well past their 40's, what sort of commentary do you freely express that you sticky by no matter what? Personally speaking, I was born in 1977 and because of that I grew up in the era of the 80's where I dare say with utmost confidence it had the best music not unlike the music being played today. Of course, this may be my inner "get off my lawn" commentary as it pertains to the music industry today and how it doesn't hold up to the music and artists of the 80's. Phil Collins, Hall and Oates, Prince, David Bowie, Kenny Loggins, The King Of Pop Michael Jackson, etc. are the quintessential standard bearers who wrote, produced, and/or performed legendary songs that will never be duplicated due to longevity and how they've continually stood the test of time. Today is my 40th birthday and I will be celebrating it by participating in some fun indoor skydiving. In retrospect, you don't realize how much you've done and been able to accomplished in the 1st 40 years of your life because it feels like it went by in just a blink of an eye. However, it's within the first 40 years of my life I've laughed, cried, and everything in between all the while giving glory to God as he watches over me. I've failed and then triumphed on metaphorical road to finally graduating college after nearly a decade of trying. Skydived twice. I gained new friends while letting go of others. I've said a bittersweet, tearful farewell to my best friend. I became an uncle to 3 awesome kids who I love dearly. Ultimately, I've met Stan Lee and I consider myself a lucky geek, which I can now cross off my bucket list. Plus, so much more. In the end, I will look at my face in the mirror on August 25, 2017 and hopefully my inner Morgan Freeman voice begins narrating by saying the following 3 words: This is 40.
Tuesday, August 15, 2017
Robin Williams' Dead Poet Society character John Keating once said, ~To quote from Whitman, 'O me! O life! Of the questions of these recurring; of the endless trains of the faithless... of cities filled with the foolish; what good amid these, O me, O life?' Answer: That you are here - that life exists, and identity; that the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse. What will your verse be?~ If you think about it, the powerful play that is life itself gives each one of the us the opportunity to most definitely contribute a verse that is deemed meaningful and so impactful it lingers on for years to come. For it's a verse or verses that certainly have different variations indeed as we all try to eloquently put into our own poetic words, which can be quite difficult at times to convey. So, what verse/verses have you been contributing for your life thus far? Without a doubt, for a number of people they've contributed the verse of adventure in which the goal of fulfilling dreams involving various recreational activities both planned and unplanned is considered to be poetry that's constantly in motion, so to speak. In other words, the call of the open road and/or having your passport stamped. A poet such as Henry Van Dyke can truly be appreciated by any avid adventurer as it pertains to his poem "Life". Essentially, its deeply soulful embarking on the quest to go to wherever the journey leads you and no matter what happens you take nothing for granted knowing full well it leaves you hopefully wanting more. What it primarily comes down to is having the persistence in not allowing any obstacles to hinder you from writing your own adventurous verse or verses to proudly reflect back on. As I said before, every person's verse or verses of life has different variations in trying to eloquently put it into our own poetic words, which can be quite difficult at times to convey. Thinking about it further, the verse/verses of utter heartbreak is a subject totally familiar and relatable that for certain individuals it's what he/she unfortunately solely focuses on. True, one can have a Sylvia Plath poetic mindset where there is a seemingly constant mental, as well as emotional chaos brewing within their heart and mind like in Plath's classic poem "Mad Girl's Love Song". Sadly, when it comes to the possibility of being able to rewrite the verses of sadness to happiness it's a considerably difficult hard task to undertake due to the fact that their dark and dreary outlook concerning love/true love will never come to fruition. Let me ask you this question in regards to the friendships you share, how would you so eloquently put in verse/verses in being able to be great friend as it pertains to your best buds/gal pals? Gillian Jones captures the essence of true friendship in the verses of his poem "A Friend". In summary, it basically lists all the wonderful qualities about her friend Ian. Yet, at the same time she also reminds the reader through a particular verse that even though you've established a strong bond it has the potential to be lost. You see, we all have in all intense and purposes a golden friendship where it should be a more give than take type situation. However, if its more take than give the friendship loses it's shiny golden luster, in a manner of speaking. Hey, how many of you can freely say they have a purely golden relationships despite experiencing moments of losing the shiny luster? On August 11th, 2014 Robin Williams passed away leaving a meaningful and not to mention deeply impactful verses that were shared on and off the screen. Of course, it's been 3 years since his unfortunate passing and yet the verses he has conveyed still make a significant impact so much so it makes any person who grew up watching him tear up or even cry for that matter. Ultimately, the powerful plays of life has given you a stage or in this case a desk to stand up on and articulate whatever verse in the form of art, music, dance, etc. What will you say? What's your message? Will it be heard? Will it linger and make a lasting impact. Will it even be remembered? All good questions. In the end, give credit to the person who helped you express those verses as you stand on your metaphorical desk and say with a proud smile on your face the following 4 words: Oh Captain! My Captain!